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17 MAY 2011: DAY NO 138 of 2011 : THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

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Night time here and a full moon  THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

I was  planning to sit down here for a good while today but things happened and I only come to my eBENCH in the evening and after dinner.  And I find myself with little that I want to say. It’s a full moon and has been a kindly day. Things do pass. Lonely times and heart break passes. Not without changing everything left in their wake. But they do pass. Then along come gems of days like this one. They don’t need many words , days like this one don’t.

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16 MAY 2011: DAY No 137 : THE H.A.L.T.S.

THE H.A.L.T.S.

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I might go down to Yellow Rock today. Sun is shining and the river looks good. I am proceeding with my obedience to clichés and not resisting as much as I thought I would. Mostly because its working. The HALTS are one technique for survival which have REALLY helped me. I seem to have been born with little sense of the ordinary needs of the human body and the years of  substance abuse reduced my recognition of those needs even further. The simple HALTS message is near as clear as “What part of NO don’t you understand ?”

The HALTS.

Don’t get too HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY, TIRED, SERIOUS.

Once again, I can give a good analysis of the HALTS. Once again, I’m not going to. Plain obedience is the theme for a month with only a few frills now and then.

DON’T GET TOO  
HUNGRY  
ANGRY or ANXIOUS
LONELY
TIRED or THIRSTY
SAD or SERIOUS  

 

THE DANGER OF ANGER.

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Late in the afternoon and rather besieged by unexpected expenses. $500 for the Starwagon. The gas has suddenly run 0ut. There’s another $120 to pay. Life down here in the bowels is often unexpected. As for me, I am enmeshed in cliché studies and in their application to daily life so I am focussed on the HALTS for the day and am not being distracted by other matters.

My own HALTS for the day:

HUNGER.

For brekkie – a bagel and white tea for brekkie. Lunch – reheated pizza and coca cola. Dinner – steamed vegies. Might top up with vita brits. Not a healthy food day but I am not hungry.

ANGER.

Haven’t freaked out even with the gas running out, the car costing heaps, Centrelink overpaying and other odds and ends. Applied some tricks of the trade:

  • breathe deeply 3 times and put a smile in your mind.
  • just say ‘bloody marvellous’ no matter what happens. That one is courtesy of Graham from the Coolangatta.
  • explode on Facebook or my PROTEST blog.
  • see if there’s anything to be done. If so – DO IT. If not- don’t worry about it.
ANXIETY

Pretty much used the same techniques as for ANGER. Did what I could and checked my reality and took a photo or two of the nearly full moon.

LONELINESS

A day with the man at home. Interaction online with others including family and one phone call. Not lonely. Rarely am.

TIRED

Tiredness is one thing which can do me in. Marian used to say it was the ONLY thing which could do her in. Its taken years for me to work out what makes me too tired. Due to several factors, I tire easily and then become very ill and depressed. Nowadays I know the point at which I am in need of rest and generally take that rest as deeply and for as long as I need to. Its much easier now when society asks less of me due to age.  Tonight, I am not too tired. Comfortable is what I am other than having no gas for a shower.

SAD and SERIOUS.

Being of the depressive variety, I am often sad and serious. Tonight – I am not.

Now for a poignant quote on each of the HALTS.

Preach not to others what they should eat, but eat as becomes you, and be silent. Epictetus

Angry with someone?
ask yourself, what does this say about me?
ask yourself what reason do I have?
what’s the reason behind the reason?
It say more about you then the other person, we all are reflections, mirrors of each-other, hidden parts of ourselfs are being expressed by those who you feel angry with.

ANGER

ANXIETY, Useless.

Bulstrode Whitlock, Cromwell’s envoy to Sweden, was one night so disturbed in mind over the state of his nation, that he could not sleep. His servant, observing it, said, ” Pray, sir, will you give me leave to ask you a question ? ” — ” Certainly.” — ” Do you think that God governed the world very well before you came into it ? ” — ” Undoubtedly.” — ” And do you not think that he will govern the world quite as well when you are gone out of it ? ” — ” Certainly.” — ” Then, pray, sir, excuse me : do you not think that you may trust him to govern it as long as you live ? ” No answer could be given, and composure and sleep followed.

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Living the past is a dull and lonely business; looking back strains the neck muscles, causing you to bump into people not going your way.  Edna Ferber

Sit down. Breathe
in, breathe out.
Close your tired eyes.
Basho is sitting beside you—
a guest in his own house.

PETER SKRZYNECKI

IN BASHO’S HOUSE

Sadness and gladness succeed each other.

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MAY 15 2011 : GRATITUDE

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When the sun shines more years than fear

when birds fly more miles than anger

when sky holds more birds

sails more cloud

shines more sun

than the palm of love carries hate

even then shall I in this weary

seventy-year banquet say, Sunwaiter,

Birdwaiter, Skywaiter,

I have no hunger,

remove my plate.

SUDESH MISHRA, Tandava.

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Tandava, a collection of poems centred mainly on Fiji.

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I have put up this pic of me and me dad with a fish. No reason in particular. Nothing to do with benches. Maybe something to do with the poem from Fiji. I am one person who has lived long enough for the good years to have lasted longer than the bad. When I was in the Rozelle Mental Hospital and then the Silver Lining Halfway House for Langton Clinic, I was taught to write a gratitude list. Seems a pretty simple thing and it can be but like the other cliché-ed behaviours and thinking it can lead into some mystical complexities.

I read a lot of gratitude lists nowadays. For various reasons. Sometimes I think they work for the person. Sometimes, well sometimes, they could do with a few more run throughs and a good reading over. There’s a couple of tips I was given :

  • Just do the gratitude list. Do NOT balance it with the ungrateful side. Its not a legal debate.
  • Do not be trite. Don’t just chuck in the things you hear other people being grateful for.
  • Be specific. VERY specific. There are good reasons for that. I will leave it to you to discover them.
  • You can also put in things that you are grateful NOT to have in your life. e.g. I am very glad not to be in the loony bin anymore.
  • A WORD TO THE WISE – DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE GRATITUDE LIST.

Postscript: Watch the Cynic and the Rebel (Within and Without) try to attack at the very word “ gratitude”.

Now, lets sit down and take a good look at this poem from Fiji.

When the sun shines more years than fear

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when birds fly more miles than anger

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when sky holds more birds

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sails more cloud

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than the palm of love carries hate

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even then shall I in this weary

seventy-year banquet say

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I have no hunger

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remove my plate.

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SUDESH MISHRA, Tandava.

13 MAY 2011: DAY NO 135 : "It’s ok to look back just don’t stare."

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“It’s ok to look back just don’t stare”

That’s a fine way to start an eBENCH yaan. Every time I take a look at a cliché, I start pulling it apart instead of the self promised month of obedience. The very thought of it has me driven to a cup of coffee. That’s not my usual beverage but I shall take a cup this morning into my 3rd day at home and thinking about the Past. I spend a lot of time looking at the Past and quite a percentage of that time scrutinising and seeking data. I’ll go make a cup of my rather evil instant coffee and while I’m gone, here’s a piece of Tennyson for you from an old Aussie newspaper. Cairns Post (Qld. : 1909-1954), Monday 19 October 1931. http://nla.gov.au/nla.news-article41146245

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I am in my 60s and with the social networks booming, I see many of my generation linking up, retracing old paths, sharing memories and the missing years. Some of it works very well for me. I can call that the ‘looking back’ dimension of it.  Some if it doesn’t work so well for me and is more of the ‘STARING’ dimension. There’s another fanciful aspect which overlaps with the Staring. I include in this 3rd area seeming expectation that things will be as they once were as long back as 40 years ago. One former lover of mine rang frequently and contacted me and followed me to Queensland and I could do very little to convince him that I was now a little white haired woman with many years of life between him and me.

“It’s ok to look back just don’t stare”

It’s O.K. to look back but don’t just stare.

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Now, that’s better. As I said, I do a lot of looking back, but I also do a lot with the things I see back there. I don’t just STARE.

I shall spend some more time now with my newspapers, looking back at the Past. Here, let’s take a look. Let’s see what we can learn here. Take a look at some Labyrinth Meditations as well. A labyrinth meditation leads you to the centre and what you discover there at the centre can be brought back out of the Labyrinth to your present day life. Same as journeying back into the Past. Leave behind the things you no longer need. Examine the things you’re not sure about and bring back the things you can use now. Leave behind the things you are unsure about. You can always go back into the Labyrinth anytime you choose and take another look.

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Western Mail (Perth, WA : 1885-1954) Thursday 28 April 1932.

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Cairns Post (Qld. : 1909-1954), Tuesday 11 December 1934

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Western Mail (Perth, WA : 1885-1954), Thursday 5 August 1948.

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The Australian Women’s Weekly (1932-1982), Saturday 17 August 1935

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The Courier-Mail (Brisbane, Qld. : 1933-1954), Monday 24 December 1934

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11 MAY 2011 : DAY NO 132 OF 2011: More will be revealed.

MORE WILL BE REVEALED.

From TAO PRACTICE

The True Heart is the part of ourselves that is in harmony with the universe, so it can only be revealed when we are acting authentically and with good intention. Although I cannot see my True Heart in its entirety, I know that if I continue to cultivate myself and my Tao practice, then as they say in AA, “more will be revealed”.

More Will Be Revealed.

Basic Text of Narcotics Anonymous. The title of Chapter 10 is “More Will Be Revealed” and the last paragraph of the book is:
“We have found a way out, and we see it work for others. Each day more will be revealed.”

MORE WILL BE REVEALED.

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Chilly again. Suppose that’s to be expected but I spent a good few years up on the Tweed and became accustomed to warmer weather. Mind you its 17 degrees C so that’s not bad and the sky is blue and clear of clouds.

I am going to take a shower and wash this white head of hair and then I will be back to have a Yaan.

12.56 p.m. Hair washed and lunch eaten. I’m home for days without a car. That’s a stretch for me as always. Me and the horse and critters. Once I’ve settled in, I like it but the settling takes a little bit of doing. I might take a look at that MORE WILL BE REVEALED reading and see what its about.

we became increasingly aware of ourselves and the world around us

 

 

Our needs and wants, our assets and liabilities, were revealed to us

 

We came to realize that we had no power to change the outside world; we could only change ourselves

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More will be revealed. 

10 MAY 2011 : DAY NO 131 OF 2011 : Not every cloud brings rain.

FROM SOUND PROVERBS

All clouds bring not rain.”We can rephrase this: “Not every cloud brings rain.” And that’s true. Sometimes there are many clouds in the sky, but it doesn’t rain. Sometimes it’s the same with problems, or what we think are problems.

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For a few years now it has seemed that every cloud brought rain. In the physical world anyways. I do like to take a cliché and look further at the literal meaning of it. That process adds colour and depth to the small catchphrases of life.

NOT EVERY CLOUD BRINGS RAIN.

We had years of drought and predictions, well more like dire warnings, that it would never rain again. Then in 2009, the rains came and from then till now, the nervous shimmers of the average Australian have gone from fear of no rain to dread of more rain.  Not every cloud brings rain but a lot of clouds do.

Then again, I did learn a lesson about that once. I had taken a shine to a young Englishman and he had taken a shine to me. We sat down on the Promenade at Bondi Beach and discussed the possibility of committing to a relationship.

Says I. “ Well, even though it will probably be bad, I am willing to give it a go.”

Says he, “ That’s funny. I was thinking THIS COULD BE GOOD.”

That was a rainless cloud lesson for me. Up till that point, I rarely had the expectation that something could be good.

NOT EVERY CLOUD BRINGS RAIN.

Some more things about this cloud saying that just came to my mind are:

Sometimes rain is a good thing and sometimes its not.

Sometimes its good for one thing and not another.

A certain amount of rain has one effect and a different amount has another effect.

The rain or rainlessness will affect each person, place or thing in a different way.

 

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Sit down a moment and we’ll take a look at some of the Clouds I’ve seen. Some brought rain. Some didn’t.

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The higher the clouds the better the weather.

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‎”Ola i ka wai a ka ʻōpua.”
There is life in the water from the clouds. 
Mary Kawena Puku.

“In the hour of adversity be not without hope, For crystal rain falls from black clouds”
Persian Proverb

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We believe that every being is divine, is God. Every soul is a sun covered over with clouds of ignorance; the difference between soul and soul is owing to the difference in density of these layers of clouds.

“Meditate. Live purely. Be humble. Do your work with mastery. Like the moon, come out from behind the clouds! Shine!”
Buddha, 568-488 BC,

Founder of Buddhism.

10 CLOUDS ON THE HORIZON WHICH LOOK LIKE PROBLEMS TO ME BUT MIGHT NOT BE.

I will check them out in a month or two.

  1. the cost of electricity this winter.
  2. my left knee
  3. the closing of the BONVILLE FRESH FRUIT SHOP
  4. living a long way from some of the kids and grandkids
  5. my breathing and bleeding
  6. shingle by shingle
  7. dying vans
  8. our vegie garden not growing anything but sunflowers
  9. heating the house
  10. my nieces in limbo

SOMETIMES THE CLOUDS DO BRING RAIN.

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NOTHING TO DO WITH CLOUDS BUT IT HAS A GOOD DEAL TO DO WITH THINGS NOT NECESSARILY BRINGING WHAT YOU EXPECT THEM TO.

9 MAY 2011 : DAY NO 130 OF 2011 : DON’T FORGET YOUR PAST LEST IT BECOME YOUR FUTURE.

CALCULATING THE DAY OF THE YEAR

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Taking a short eBENCH sitdown this morning. Not much time for a Yaan with visitors coming again. I am wondering what the old brown dog is doing down the bottom of the horse paddock. She doesn’t usually go so far.

I have been looking through the HISTORIC Newspapers for stories of John Curtis and Ann Moran. Meantime, a black chook, a red chook and a scrub turkey are on the front verandah with the cat. I don’t know what they’re all up to today.

DON’T FORGET YOUR PAST LEST IT BECOME YOUR FUTURE.

That saying once held only sinister meaning for me. These days it doesn’t but it is a treasure trove for me. I surely do not want the past of my ancestor who came on the 2nd Fleet.

When the Second fleet landed at Port Jackson it must have been a sickening sight. When the officials boarded the three transports they were confronted with the sight of convicts, most near naked, lying where they were chained. Most were emaciated with a lot dead in their chains or very close to death. The majority of the convicts were unable to speak, walk or even get to their feet. All were degraded, covered in their own body waste, dirt and infested with lice- and all exhibited the savage brutality of beatings or floggings as well as the visible signs of the starvation they had endured.

 

Not that he was the only one. The one I was most interested in today was ANN MORAN. It appears she was an Iriish Rebel and sent out here at the beginning of the 19th Century. That’s where I spent a good part of today – way back there in the Early Colonial World of NEW SOUTH WALES.  I am descended from a considerable amount of Rebellious Ancestry. Thank Goodness.

DON’T FORGET YOUR PAST LEST IT BECOME YOUR FUTURE.